“BREAK free from your SELF IMPOSED LIMITS! Let your BRILLIANCE SHINE!”
YOUR 'BRAND' IS YOUR STORY...
YOUR 'BRAND' IS YOUR STORY...
Keynotes
Being ‘PINK’ In A ‘BLUE’ World
As a female police officer, Carlamay navigated a world where the demands of my profession often clashed with societal expectations of femininity. In a landscape where strength is synonymous with masculinity and toughness, standing true to her feminine identity felt like an uphill battle. Every day, Carlamay confronted the challenge of remaining authentically herself while fulfilling the responsibilities of her role.This journey wasn't just about wearing a badge; it was about embracing the complexities of femininity in a world that sometimes seeks to bury it, both literally and figuratively. It was about defying stereotypes and reshaping perceptions of what it means to be a woman in law enforcement.Femininity, to Carlamay, is more than just pink nail polish or delicate accessories. It's about embodying empathy, compassion, and resilience in the face of adversity. It's about finding strength in vulnerability, courage in authenticity, and grace in the midst of chaos.Carlamay will explore the nuances of standing in her feminine while navigating a blue world that often tries to drown it out. Carlamay will share insights into how she reconciles the expectations of her profession with the essence of who she is as a woman. Together, you'll uncover strategies for staying true to oneself and embracing your femininity in environments that may seem overwhelmingly masculine.Join Carlamay as she delves into the intricacies of remaining pink in a blue world, celebrating the power and resilience of femininity in the face of adversity.Three Takeaways
Embracing Authenticity: Carlamay emphasizes the importance of staying true to oneself in a male-dominated environment. She shares strategies for maintaining authenticity and femininity while fulfilling the demands of a profession often associated with masculinity.
Redefining Femininity: The presentation challenges stereotypes by redefining femininity as a blend of empathy, resilience, and strength. Carlamay encourages participants to see vulnerability as a source of power rather than a weakness, fostering a deeper understanding of what it means to be a woman in law enforcement.
Building a Supportive Community: Carlamay discusses the significance of creating networks among women in traditionally male fields. By sharing experiences and supporting each other, women can navigate challenges together, empowering one another to thrive while embracing their unique identities in a "blue world."
Living Your True Potential
Diamond Resilience: Breaking the Mold, Unveiling Brilliance, Shattering Constraints, and Embracing Your True Potential
Each one of us try and fit into a box that has been created for us over the years with our past experiences and challenges. If we look at this box, it is just a piece of flat cardboard, yet, it seems to continue too define us. What do we need to do to break out of the box and it's constraints....whatever they may be?What if we can be both that/and in our lives, no matter what our experiences have been or the lies that we keep telling ourselves? How can we let our diamond shine again even if it’s tarnished?In this keynote, Carlamay will share her inspiring story of breaking free from limitations, discovering her resilience, and finding her voice, which ultimately became her strength and empowerment.Three Takeaways
Breaking Free From Limitations: Carlamay will inspire you to challenge the constraints you’ve been conditioned by, showing that the boxes we feel trapped in are merely illusions, not permanent definitions of who we are.
Embracing Duality in Life: This keynote encourages embracing the “both/and” of our lives, accepting that we can be multifaceted, regardless of past experiences or self-imposed limits, allowing us to break free from societal expectations.
Rediscovering Your Inner Strength: Even when life has left us feeling tarnished, this keynote demonstrates that, like a diamond, our true brilliance can shine again. Resilience, finding your voice, and self-empowerment are key to unlocking that potential.
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Do you struggle to believe in yourself?
Do you constantly feel like someone else knows best?
I’m here to tell you that underestimating your instincts is both the worst thing you can do AND one of the easiest things to overcome!
I’ve been where you are! Doubting myself with my son. Terrified of making the wrong decision.
I would love to help you gain (or regain) the confidence you were born with, dig into the basic ground work of resilience and help you become the mother you can be!
Bring me to your event and I’ll help you and all the other mothers become the confident, resilient mothers they were born to be!
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The path to leadership is often paved in pain, loss, several doses of humility and more. Occasionally, your path will be lit with nothing but sunshine.
Believe it or not, resilience is actually even more important to possess when you have LESS obstacles in your way!
Why?
Because eventually you will be hit with a very large one and if you have not developed the skills to overcome with your dignity and composer intact, you risk losing it all.
Whether you would like to develop your skills further, or develop them period, I have ample examples, tools and ‘know how’ to help you!
Enlist my help by bringing me to your next event!
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How…. how do we see, hear and feel what we do and not bring that home?
How do we look at our little ones, hold our loved ones and find a way to still feel human through the trauma of what can often be every day of our professional lives?
I have learned how to feel, see and hear all that you do, and convert myself into the person I want to be for my friends and family so effectively, that you not only play the part, but you become that person.
“You become what you do repeatedly. Therefore, excellence is not a trait but a habit.”
I look forward to helping you develop the most effective habit of your life through the core skills of basic resilience.
Become The Bridge Back To Your Kids
Are you struggling to connect with the young people in your life? Do you wish you knew the right questions to ask to get them to open up and truly engage in conversation?Youth Truth: Engaging in Conversations That Can Change lives, you’ll discover how to approach difficult topics with empathy and support, creating safe spaces where youth feel valued and heard. Through this engaging session, Carlamay will help you understand the complex issues today's youth face and guide you on how to ask the right questions that genuinely resonate with them.Based on insights from Carlamay's book: Youth Truth, this session delves into the raw, unfiltered realities of today’s youth, highlighting the often-overlooked battles they fight—from the haunting shadows of suicide and bullying to the silent struggles with eating disorders and the desperate need to be seen.As a retired law enforcement officer and school resource officer, Carlamay brings a unique perspective to these challenges. This presentation is more than just a discussion; it’s a call to action. By listening and engaging in honest, compassionate conversations, you can make a profound impact on the lives of the young people around you.Join Carlamay in Youth Truth to empower yourself with the tools to build stronger, more supportive relationships with the youth in your life.Three Takeaways
Creating Safe, Supportive Spaces: Learn how to foster environments where youth feel heard, values, and safe enough to share their struggles, opening the door for real conversations.
Understanding Youth Struggles: Gain insight into the hidden battles today’s youth face, from mental health challenges to social pressures, and learn how to better support them.
Empowering Through Compassionate Conversations: Gain practical tools and strategies for engaging in conversations that empower youth, helping them navigate complex challenges while fostering trust and connection.
WHO NEEDS TO BECOME A BRIDGE?
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Do you know the heartbreak of feeling you can’t get through to your child.
We ask ourselves questions like..
What happened to my baby?
Do they even love me anymore?
Did I cause this?
It is one of the worst possible feelings to feel like you are losing your child.
The good news is, it does not have to be permanent.
Your child has a biological pull towards you and the rebellion is coming out of elements that you can overcome.
Book me now for your next event and I will help you and your team become the bridge back to your kids.
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We know too well that for too many kids, we are their last hope.
But what do you do when children don’t fit the mold you were trained to work with?
What happens when all our training is useless in helping specific children?
There are many ways to build a bridge to even those children and it all starts with becoming tuned into what they are showing you, not always what they are telling you.
Book me for your next conference and I will teach you the skills I learned to help you become the bridge for the kids we know need you most!
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It is your job to have all the answers… yet sometimes, you just don’t!
Sometimes it can even come down to you simply not having the energy to dig deeper because you are running on empty.
Let me help you and your colleagues implement simple techniques to build a bride to even the most complicated cases.
Book me for your next conference today
CARLAMAY’S BIO
With over two decades of service in law enforcement, I navigated the diverse landscape of this profession, contributing my skills to various specialty units. As a passionate advocate for empowerment, particularly of women, I have worked tirelessly to uplift and support those around me, from at-risk youth to newcomers and Immigrants; to fellow colleagues and everyone in-between.
My journey has been marked by resilience, overcoming the challenges of surviving cancer, a divorce, embracing single parenthood, and navigating the complexities of a PTSD diagnosis. Embracing the unconventional, I never conformed to societal expectations, choosing instead to live outside the confines of a “box”, paving my own unique path with purpose and determination.
Beyond my commitment to law enforcement, I have funneled my experiences into a compelling narrative. Through writing a book, I strive to bridge a generational gap, shedding light on what youth yearn for their parents, teachers, and friends to understand about them. My exploration dives into the unspoken desires these youth experience, offering insight into the questions that often linger in their minds, fostering a deeper understanding and connection with them. It’s my sincere hope to amplify the voices of the younger generation and to facilitate meaningful conversations that exceed the conventional boundaries of traditional communication.
No matter how difficult life has been or how tarnished you believe you are, each person has a diamond within them and when polished, it will shine bright. Each person brings a light into this world and it's each of our mission to see that light and help them to let it shine!
I retired this past May from the Calgary Police Service and have begun an amazing adventure as a keynote speaker and author. I am using my stories to empower others. I have a background in Psychology, Sociology and music and enjoy singing and spending time with my family.
I am finally living outside a box I never fit into.
