BREAK free from your SELF IMPOSED LIMITS! Let your BRILLIANCE SHINE!

YOUR 'BRAND' IS YOUR STORY...

YOUR 'BRAND' IS YOUR STORY...

My Life In ‘BLUE’

My experiences as an officer for the Calgary Police service, (21 years) shaped who I would become as a wife, mother & woman.

Should I become ‘one of the boys’?

Could I ‘leave work at work’?

Who was I going to be?

Could I be this, and the other sides of me at the same time?

My story is complicated. It is ugly… It is beautiful… AND it is here for you to learn from….

“Being ‘PINK’

In A ‘BLUE’ World”

As a female police officer, Carlamay navigated a world where the demands of my profession often clashed with societal expectations of femininity. In a landscape where strength is synonymous with masculinity and toughness, standing true to her feminine identity felt like an uphill battle. Every day, Carlamay confronted the challenge of remaining authentically herself while fulfilling the responsibilities of her role.
This journey wasn't just about wearing a badge; it was about embracing the complexities of femininity in a world that sometimes seeks to bury it, both literally and figuratively. It was about defying stereotypes and reshaping perceptions of what it means to be a woman in law enforcement.
Femininity, to Carlamay, is more than just pink nail polish or delicate accessories. It's about embodying empathy, compassion, and resilience in the face of adversity. It's about finding strength in vulnerability, courage in authenticity, and grace in the midst of chaos.
Carlamay will explore the nuances of standing in her feminine while navigating a blue world that often tries to drown it out. Carlamay will share insights into how she reconciles the expectations of her profession with the essence of who she is as a woman. Together, you'll uncover strategies for staying true to oneself and embracing your femininity in environments that may seem overwhelmingly masculine.
Join Carlamay as she delves into the intricacies of remaining pink in a blue world, celebrating the power and resilience of femininity in the face of adversity.

  • Like you, I’ve experienced heartbreak, love, loss, trials, happiness and at times, extreme sadness.

    These elements of life unite us all and yet we all experience them via different paths.

  • My career choice determined the way I would learn many of my life lessons was to be through the brutality of what humans are capable of doing to each other…

    But, I was able to witness the extreme goodness we are capable of through forgiveness, kindness and compassion.

  • My ultimate calling is to lean into what I have learned through the light and the darkness of my police work and by doing so, provide you with the tools specific to my areas of expertise.

CHAPTER ONE: RESILIENCE

EXPANDED ‘CHAPTERS’ OF MY STORY AVAILABLE

FOR YOU & YOUR EVENT!

  • Do you struggle to believe in yourself?

    Do you constantly feel like someone else knows best?

    I’m here to tell you that underestimating your instincts is both the worst thing you can do AND one of the easiest things to overcome!

    I’ve been where you are! Doubting myself with my son. Terrified of making the wrong decision.

    I would love to help you gain (or regain) the confidence you were born with, dig into the basic ground work of resilience and help you become the mother you can be!

    Bring me to your event and I’ll help you and all the other mothers become the confident, resilient mothers they were born to be!

  • The path to leadership is often paved in pain, loss, several doses of humility and more. Occasionally, your path will be lit with nothing but sunshine.

    Believe it or not, resilience is actually even more important to possess when you have LESS obstacles in your way!

    Why?

    Because eventually you will be hit with a very large one and if you have not developed the skills to overcome with your dignity and composer intact, you risk losing it all.

    Whether you would like to develop your skills further, or develop them period, I have ample examples, tools and ‘know how’ to help you!

    Enlist my help by bringing me to your next event!

  • How…. how do we see, hear and feel what we do and not bring that home?

    How do we look at our little ones, hold our loved ones and find a way to still feel human through the trauma of what can often be every day of our professional lives?

    I have learned how to feel, see and hear all that you do, and convert myself into the person I want to be for my friends and family so effectively, that you not only play the part, but you become that person.

    “You become what you do repeatedly. Therefore, excellence is not a trait but a habit.”

    I look forward to helping you develop the most effective habit of your life through the core skills of basic resilience.

My life has gone from dark to light, and everything in between.

My lessons, can be your lessons…

CHAPTER TWO: LIVING YOUR POTENTIAL

 

Diamond Resilience: Breaking the Mold, Unveiling Brilliance, Shattering Constraints, and Embracing Your True Potential

Each one of us try and fit into a box that has been created for us over the years with our past experiences and challenges.  If we look at this box it is just a piece of flat cardboard yet it seems to continue to define us.  What do we need to do to break out of the box and its constraints…whatever they may be?                                                                                                What if we can be both that/and in our lives, no matter what our experiences have been or the lies that we keep telling ourselves?  How can we let our diamond shine again even if it is tarnished?                                                                                                                                                  In this keynote, Carlamay will share her inspiring story of breaking free from limitations, discovering her resilience, and finding her voice, which ultimately became her strength and empowerment.

As a police officer, I was also a stylist, mom a wife, and… a woman!

Beautiful thing about living your potential is that you don’t need to exist in any box.

You will live a life of ‘Out of the Box’ thinking, behaving, and much more!

Take a peak below to see different areas you can become the true expression of you!

  • No matter what environment you are in its important to dress and live in alignment with your true self.….

    I can teach you how to dress with confidence to put best foot forward!

    I can’t wait to show you what happens when you suddenly feel good about how you look.

    Lets chat and you’ll start to see your life morph right before your eyes!

  • This does not mean we all need to go out and paint a masterpiece!

    Creativity is about self expression outside of the one dimension we usually operate within.

    It is about finding what makes you happy and developing it into a past time.

    Is it archery? Is it hiking? Is it learning loads of new skills and becoming a ‘jack of all’?

    Whatever lights your heart up is what to you must follow!

    I have my own expressions of creativity! Some have led to notoriety and others to simply personal joy- all were successes because they taught me more about myself!

    Lets chat about how you can find your expression of creativity!

  • Allowing yourself to have peace at home is absolutely critical for YOU, YOUR peace and YOUR balance.

    This becomes even more important if you have children.

    We will often ‘take the hit’ on ourselves, but as parents, it is our duty to ensure we provide and environment that is positive and as low in stress and high in love as we can.

    Our bad days, are just bad days to us, but for the children under our care, those bad day accumulate and have lasting impacts on who they become, how they will receive and give love and much more.

    I learned that balance. I learned how to leave my job, on the job..

    Let me help you now so you can ‘skip to the front of the line’!

CHAPTER THREE:

YOUTH TRUTH:BECOME THE BRIDGE….BACK TO YOUR KIDS.

 Are you struggling to connect with the young people in your life? Do you wish you knew the right questions to ask to get them to open up and truly engage in conversation?
Youth Truth: Engaging in Conversations That Can Change lives, you’ll discover how to approach difficult topics with empathy and support, creating safe spaces where youth feel valued and heard. Through this engaging session, Carlamay will help you understand the complex issues today's youth face and guide you on how to ask the right questions that genuinely resonate with them.
Based on insights from Carlamay's book: Youth Truth, this session delves into the raw, unfiltered realities of today’s youth, highlighting the often-overlooked battles they fight—from the haunting shadows of suicide and bullying to the silent struggles with eating disorders and the desperate need to be seen.
As a retired law enforcement officer and school resource officer, Carlamay brings a unique perspective to these challenges. This presentation is more than just a discussion; it’s a call to action. By listening and engaging in honest, compassionate conversations, you can make a profound impact on the lives of the young people around you.
Join Carlamay in Youth Truth to empower yourself with the tools to build stronger, more supportive relationships with the youth in your life.

WHO NEEDS TO BECOME A BRIDGE?

  • I know the heartbreak of feeling you can’t get through to your child.

    We ask ourselves questions like..

    What happened to my baby?

    Do they even love me anymore?

    Did I cause this?

    It is one of the worst possible feelings to feel like you are losing your child.

    The good news is, it does not have to be permanent.

    Your child has a biological pull towards you and the rebellion is coming out of elements that you can overcome.

    Book me now for your next event and I will help you and your team become the bridge back to your kids.

  • We know too well that for too many kids, we are their last hope.

    But what do you do when children don’t fit the mold you were trained to work with?

    What happens when all our training is useless in helping specific children?

    There are many ways to build a bridge to even those children and it all starts with becoming tuned into what they are showing you, not always what they are telling you.

    Book me for your next conference and I will teach you the skills I learned to help you become the bridge for the kids we know need you most!

  • It is your job to have all the answers… yet sometimes, you just don’t!

    Sometimes it can even come down to you simply not having the energy to dig deeper because you are running on empty.

    Let me help you and your colleagues implement simple techniques to build a bride to even the most complicated cases.

    Book me for your next conference today1

CARLAMAY’S BIO

With over two decades of service in law enforcement, I navigated the diverse landscape of this profession, contributing my skills to various specialty units.  As a passionate advocate for empowerment, particularly of women, I have worked tirelessly to uplift and support those around me, from at-risk youth to newcomers and Immigrants; to fellow colleagues and everyone in-between.  

My journey has been marked by resilience, overcoming the challenges of surviving cancer, a divorce, embracing single parenthood, and navigating the complexities of a PTSD diagnosis.  Embracing the unconventional, I never conformed to societal expectations, choosing instead to live outside the confines of a “box”, paving my own unique path with purpose and determination. 

Beyond my commitment to law enforcement, I have funneled my experiences into a compelling narrative.  Through writing a book, I strive to bridge a generational gap, shedding light on what youth yearn for their parents, teachers, and friends to understand about them.  My exploration dives into the unspoken desires these youth experience, offering insight into the questions that often linger in their minds, fostering a deeper understanding and connection with them.  It’s my sincere hope to amplify the voices of the younger generation and to facilitate meaningful conversations that exceed the conventional boundaries of traditional communication.

No matter how difficult life has been or how tarnished you believe you are, each person has a diamond within them and when polished, it will shine bright.  Each person brings a light into this world and it's each of our mission to see that light and help them to let it shine! 

I retired this past May from the Calgary Police Service and have begun an amazing adventure as a keynote speaker and author.  I am using my stories to empower others. I have a background in Psychology, Sociology and music and enjoy singing and spending time with my family.

I am finally living outside a box I never fit into.